英语翻译Let me give you an illustration.You walk up to the check

英语翻译
Let me give you an illustration.You walk up to the check-out person at Wal-Mart and they respond to you in somewhat of a gruff manner.At this point you have a choice:shall I respond "in kind" or shall I extend love?To respond in kind would be to say,"I don't know why you are being so huffy.Isn't it your job to 'serve me'?" Or something equally as loving like,"Well you're a friendly one,aren't you?" Loving is responding to these irritations with understanding and love,"rough day?"
Or maybe more to the point.We're sitting in church and someone walks by us and doesn't acknowledge us!We can be offended at how arrogant and snooty they are or we can shrug it off and assume that they didn't see us,or were thinking about something else.Someone doesn't ask us to help or participate in something.We can get made and feel we have been deliberately excluded or we can conclude that they are not aware of our interest in helping or being involved.
We've talked about this before.If we spend our lives looking for offenses we will find them.Loving people resolve to see the irritations in life as bumps in the road heading to spiritual maturity.
It means Looking for Potential rather than Problems.Some of us (including myself) are really good at seeing potential problems.This is what makes us good detail persons.We prepare for contingencies.However,what is a strength in management and programming is a liability in relationships.These same people also tend to see the problems in people rather than the potential.
＊＊＊备注：我知道这篇文章有点长,但是对我来说很有意义.不管积分多少,还可以提高一下你的英语!（我就是想要提高我的汉语才提的）谢谢

让我来给你举个例子.某天你在沃尔玛购完物想要结账,但是柜员对你的态度却不怎么样.这个时候你有两个选择：是以同样的态度回敬他还是以友善的态度回应?选择第一种方式,你可能会说：“我不知道你为什么对我这么不客气,难道你的工作不是‘为我服务’吗?”,或者你回选择第二种方式,“嘿,我知道你平时不是这样的,对吧?”友善的态度是指对那些出于暴躁中的人表达你的理解与关心,“今天不太顺吧?”
可能这个例子更接近我想表达的意思.比如说你正坐在教堂里,有人从你身边走过连招呼都不打!我们可能因此而认为他是个傲慢自负的家伙,或者耸耸肩假设他只是没瞧见我们之类的.有些人从不向你寻求帮助或邀请你做某事,我们可能会觉得很生气,觉得他们是故意要孤立我们.或者你可以假设,他们只是不知道你能帮到他或者你觉得那些事情很有意思.
我们以前也谈论过这个话题.如果我们带着敌意生活就会觉得生活中到处充满了不友善.但是对别人宽容,正视生活中的各种负面情绪,能够带领你越过生活路上的这块大石,从而走上心理和精神上的成熟.
这就要求你将注意力集中在人们的内在而不是他们表现出来的各种缺点.我们中的有些人（包括我自己）都很擅长寻找潜在的缺点.这说明我们是很注意细节的人.我们时刻准备应付突发情况.但是,要成为一个善于管理和计划的人,还需要你承担起人际关系中的责任.
因为其他人也像你一样,喜欢寻找他人的缺点躲过发现他人内在的优点.