英语翻译Exchange a glance with someone,then look away.So you rea

英语翻译
Exchange a glance with someone,then look away.So you realize that you have made a statement?Hold the glance for a second longer,and you have made a different statement.Hold it for 3 seconds,and the meaning has changed again.For every social situation,there is a permissible time that you can hold a person's gaze without being intimate,rude,or aggressive.If you are on an elevator,what gaze-time are you permitted?To answer this question,consider what you typically do.You very likely give other passengers a quick glance to size them up (打量) and to assure them that you mean no threat.Since being close to another person signals the possibility of interaction.You need to emit a signal telling others you want to be left alone.So you cut off eye contact,what sociologist Erving Goffman (1963) calls “a dimming of the lights.” You look down at the floor,at the indicator lights,anywhere but into another passenger's eyes.Should you break the rule against staring at a stranger on an elevator,you will make the other person exceedingly uncomfortable,and you are likely to feel a bit strange yourself.
If you hold eye contact for more than 3 seconds,what are you telling another person?Much depends on the person and the situation.For instance,a man and a woman communicate interest in this manner.They typically gaze at each other for about 3 seconds at a time,then drop their eyes down for 3 seconds,before letting their eyes meet again.But if one man gives another man a 3-second-plus stare,he signals,“I know you”,“I am interested in you,” or “You look peculiar and I am curious about you.” This type of stare often produces hostile feelings

跟别人交换一下眼神,然后看向别处.你意识到你已经表达自己的意思了吗?眼神交流的时间变长一秒,你表达的又是另一个意思.交流时间到达3秒钟的话,意思又变了.
在每个社交场合下,都有一个可允许的眼神交流时间,这点时间里面,你盯着别人不会有亲密,无礼或者侵略的嫌疑.如果你在电梯里面,有多长的眼神交流时间是允许的呢?要回答这个问题,要考虑到你做了什么,你应该用眼神迅速的打量一下其他乘客以让他们相信你不会给他们威胁.既然紧挨着另一个乘客是表示有要交流的可能.那你就应该发出一个信号表示你想单独待着,所以你切断眼神交流,这就是社会学家Erving Goffman (1963)说的”减低光度的光线.”你可以低头看地板,看指示灯,任何地方但不是另一个乘客的眼睛.如果你打破规则,在电梯里面盯着一个陌生的乘客,这样你会让其他乘客非常的不舒服,而且你可能自己也会觉得自己有些奇怪.
如果你眼神交流的时间超过3秒钟,那你给另一个人表达的意思是什么呢?这主要是取决另外那个人和当时的情形.
比如说,一个男人和女人如果在眼神交流中对彼此有兴趣的话,他们代表性的做法就是先盯着对方3秒钟,在下次对视之前,他们有3秒钟眼神是向下的.但是如果一个男人盯着另一个男人3秒钟以上,他表达的意思“我认识你”“我对你很有兴趣”或者“你看起来很特别,我对你很好奇.”这种眼神的交流经常会产生敌对的感觉.