英语翻译Advice:Dear Don:If you are working with the same person

英语翻译
Advice:Dear Don:If you are working with the same person day in and day out,you can develop a very close and special bond with each other.Many people today are spending much more time with their working partner than they are with their loving partner.
We are always sending messages to each other,either verbal or nonverbal.It is okay to send the message that "You are so much fun to work with" or "We get so much accomplished here or "We are on the same wavelength and we really understand each other." But it it not okay to send the message - "I am interested in you outside of work or as a woman or man,or in a romantic way." It is a decision that you make to not carry it any further than friendship.It is also a conscious decision to cross over the line.It doesn't just happen by chance.It is a decision to cheat or not cheat,live a life filled with lies or not.
It is also important to understand the reason you are able to form such a close bond.You are in a very controlled environment.There are no children to deal with,relatives,friends and money problems - just two adults with shared professional goals,spending quality time with each other.Stick in a couple of kids,living with each other every day,dealing with the relatives and money issues and let us see how much fun it still is!
You are cheating your wife out of having a husband who loves her with all his heart and is 100% there in mind,body and soul.The more time you spend thinking of this other woman,the less time you spend thinking of your wife.I know that you know deep in your heart that what you are doing is wrong.You say that both of you are happily married.I wonder how happy you would be if you thought that your wife was doing the same thing that you are doing?Although you may think that you are not harming your wife by living this double life,you are destroying the intimacy that a husband and wife should share.
What you both have consciously decided to do is to selfishly think about yourselves and pretend that you have not done this intentionally.Well you have.Make no mistake,in the end,you will cause many people a great deal of pain.Your wife and children will suffer.Your friend's husband and children will suffer and both of you will suffer by seeing the chaos you created.If you are not going to ask for a divorce and marry this woman then I vote for both of you to end this now and for one of you to change jobs as soon as possible.Your wife and her husband do not deserve this!

建议：亲爱的唐,如果你日复一日地和同一个人一起工作,那你们互相可以建立一种非常亲密和特别的结合.现在很多人花了太多时间和自己的同伴一起工作,而不是和自己深爱的同伴.
我们每个人之间总是在传递信息,或者是语言的,或者是非语言的.你可以传达这样的信息：“和你在一起工作真有意思”或者“我们在这里真是太默契了”或者“我们意见一致并且非常了解对方”.但是你不能传达这样信息——“我对超出你工作范围的东西很感兴趣,或者作为一个男人或女人,或者以一种非常浪漫的方式”.这是一个你做的决定,不要把关系超越地比友谊还深远.这也是一个
明智清醒的决定去跨越这条线.这不是偶然发生的,这是一个决定,去欺骗,还是不去欺骗;去过充满谎言的日子,还是不.
去了解你能去建立这样一种亲密结合的原因也是很重要的——你在一个非常受拘束的环境中.没有孩子需要处理照看,没有亲戚朋友金钱方面的问题——只有分享专门目标的两个成年人,花大量的时间和对方在一起.身陷在一双儿女中,每天和对方在一起,处理关于亲戚和金钱的争论,并且让我们看到这种关系中还有什么是持续有趣的!
你在欺骗你的妻子有一个全心爱她的丈夫,并且思想身体灵魂的100%都在这里.如果你花越多时间来想这另一个女人,那么你就越少地来想妻子.我知道,你内心深处知道自己正在犯错.你说,你们两人都是幸福地结婚.我在怀疑当你想象到你妻子也在做和你一样的事时你还能有多幸福!尽管你可能会想,你这样双面地生活没有在伤害你的妻子,可是你正在摧毁丈夫和妻子所应共同维系的亲密感.
你们两个人都必须清醒抉择的是自私地只考虑自己并且装作你做这个只是无心的.那么,到最后,别弄错,你会给很多人带来巨大的伤害.你的妻子和孩子们会很痛苦,你的相好的丈夫和孩子会痛苦,并且你们两个人看到你们制造出来的混乱局面后也会痛苦.如果你不去要求离婚而和这个女人结婚的话,那么我赞成你们两个都到此为止,并且其中的一个人尽快换工作.你的妻子和她的丈夫不应该受到这样待遇!
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