作业帮《ted演讲》为什么我们保持联系却仍旧孤单英文原文
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《ted演讲》为什么我们保持联系却仍旧孤单英文原文
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Just a moment ago, my daughter Rebecca texted me for good luck. Her text said, mom, you will rock. I love this. Getting that text was like getting a hug. And so there you have it, I embody the central paradox. I'm a woman who loves getting text, who's going to tell you that too many of them can be problem. Actually, that reminder of my daughter brings me to the beginning of my story, 1996, when I gave my first TED Talk. Rebecca was 5 years old and she was sitting right there in the front row. I had just written a book that celebrated our life on the internet and I was about to be on the cover of Wired Magazine. In those heyday days, we were experimenting with chat rooms and online virtual communities. We were exploring different aspects of ourselves and then we unclocked. I was excited, and as a psychologist, what excited me most was the idea that we would use what we learned in the virtual world about ourselves, about our identify to live better lives in the world. Now, fast forward to 2012, I'm back here on the TED stage again. My daughter is 20. She is a college student. She sleeps with her cellphone, so do I and I've just written anew book, but this time, it's not one that will get me on the cover of Wired Magazine. So, what happened? I'm still excited by technology, but I believe and I'm here to make the case that we're letting it take us places that we don't wanna go. Over the past 15 years, I've studied technologies of mobile communication and I've interviewed hundreds and hundreds of people, young and old about their plugged in lives and what I found is that our little devices, those little devices in our pockets are so psychologically powerful that they don't only change what we do. They change who we are. Some of the things we do now with our devices are things that only a few years ago would have found odd or disturbing, but they've quickly come to seem familiar just how we do things, so just to take some quick examples, people text or e-mail during corporate board meetings. They text and shop and go on Facebook during classes, during presentations, actually during all meetings. People talked to me about the important new skill of making eye contact while your texting. People explained to me that it's hard, that it can be done. Parents text and do e-mail at breakfast and at dinner where your children complained about not having their parents' full attention, but then the same children deny each other their full attention. This is a recent shot of my daughter and her friends being together while not being together. And we even text to funerals. I study this. We remove ourselves from our grief or from our reverie and we go in our phones. Why does this matter. It matters to me because I think we're saving ourselves up for trouble. Trouble certainly and how we relate to each other, but also trouble in how we relate to ourselves in our capacity for self reflection. We're getting used to a new way of being alone together. People want to be with each other, but also elsewhere connected to all the different places they wanna be. People want to customize their lives. They want to go in and out of all the places they are because the thing that matters most to them is control over where they putt their attention. So, you wanna go to that board meeting, but you only wanna pay attention to the bits that interest you, and some people think that's a good thing, but you can end up hiding from each other even as we're all constantly connected to each other. 50-year-old businessman laments to me that he feels he doesn't have colleagues anymore at work. When he goes to work, he doesn't stop by to talk to anybody he doesn't call and he says he doesn't want to interrupt his colleagues because he says they are too busy on their e-mail, but then he stops himself and he says, you know, I'm not tell you the truth. I'm the one who doesn't want to be interrupted. I think I should want to, but actually I'd rather just do things on my Blackberry (RIMM) . Across the generations, I see that people tend to get enough with each other if and only if they can have each other at a distance in amounts they can control. I call it the Goldilocks effect, not too close, not too far, just right, but what might feel just right for that middle aged executive can be a problem for an adolescent who needs to develop face to face relationships. An 18-year-old boy who uses texting for almost everything says to me wishfully someday, someday but certainly not now I would like to learn how to have a conversation. When I ask people wrong with having a conversation? I'll tell you what's wrong with having a conversation. It takes place in real time and you can't control what you're gonna say. So, that's the bottom line; texting, e-mail, posting. All of these things let us present to self as we wanna be. We get to edit and that means we get to delete, and that means we get to retouch the face, the voice, the flesh, the body. Not too much, just right. Human relationships are rich and they are messy and they are demanding, and we clean them up with technology and when we do one of the things that can happen is that we sacrifice conversation for mere connection. We short change ourselves, and over time, we seemed to forget this or we seemed to stop caring. I caught off guard whenStephen Colbert asked me a profound question, a profound question. He said, "Don't all those little tweets, don't all those little SIPs of online communication add up to 1 big gulf real conversation?" My answer was no. They don't add up. Connecting in SIPs may work for gathering discrete bits of information. They may work for saying and thinking about you or even for saying I love you. I mean, look at how I felt when I got that text from my daughter, but they don't really work for learning about each other to really coming to know and understand each other, and we use conversations with each other to learn how to have conversations with ourselves. So, off light from conversation can really matter because it can compromise our capacity for self reflection. For kids growing up, that skill is the bed rock of development. Over and over, I hear, "I would rather text than talk." And what I'm seeing is that people get so used to being short change out real conversation, so used to getting by with less that they become almost willing to dispense with people altogether. So, for example, many people share with me this wish that someday a more advance version of Siri, the digital assistant on Apple's iPhone (AAPL) will be more like a best friend, someone who will listen when other won't. I believe this wish reflects a painful truth that I've learned in the past 15 years. The feeling that no one is listening to me is very important in our relationships with technology. That's why it's appealing to have a Facebook page or Twitter feed so many automatic listeners, and the feeling that no one is listening to me makes up one to spend time with machines that seemed to care about us. We're developing robots. They call them sociable robots that are specifically designed to be companions, to be elderly to our children, to us. Have we so lost confidence that we will be there for each other?
Just a moment ago, my daughter Rebecca texted me for good luck. Her text said, mom, you will rock. I love this. Getting that text was like getting a hug. And so there you have it, I embody the central paradox. I'm a woman who loves getting text, who's going to tell you that too many of them can be problem. Actually, that reminder of my daughter brings me to the beginning of my story, 1996, when I gave my first TED Talk. Rebecca was 5 years old and she was sitting right there in the front row. I had just written a book that celebrated our life on the internet and I was about to be on the cover of Wired Magazine. In those heyday days, we were experimenting with chat rooms and online virtual communities. We were exploring different aspects of ourselves and then we unclocked. I was excited, and as a psychologist, what excited me most was the idea that we would use what we learned in the virtual world about ourselves, about our identify to live better lives in the world. Now, fast forward to 2012, I'm back here on the TED stage again. My daughter is 20. She is a college student. She sleeps with her cellphone, so do I and I've just written anew book, but this time, it's not one that will get me on the cover of Wired Magazine. So, what happened? I'm still excited by technology, but I believe and I'm here to make the case that we're letting it take us places that we don't wanna go. Over the past 15 years, I've studied technologies of mobile communication and I've interviewed hundreds and hundreds of people, young and old about their plugged in lives and what I found is that our little devices, those little devices in our pockets are so psychologically powerful that they don't only change what we do. They change who we are. Some of the things we do now with our devices are things that only a few years ago would have found odd or disturbing, but they've quickly come to seem familiar just how we do things, so just to take some quick examples, people text or e-mail during corporate board meetings. They text and shop and go on Facebook during classes, during presentations, actually during all meetings. People talked to me about the important new skill of making eye contact while your texting. People explained to me that it's hard, that it can be done. Parents text and do e-mail at breakfast and at dinner where your children complained about not having their parents' full attention, but then the same children deny each other their full attention. This is a recent shot of my daughter and her friends being together while not being together. And we even text to funerals. I study this. We remove ourselves from our grief or from our reverie and we go in our phones. Why does this matter. It matters to me because I think we're saving ourselves up for trouble. Trouble certainly and how we relate to each other, but also trouble in how we relate to ourselves in our capacity for self reflection. We're getting used to a new way of being alone together. People want to be with each other, but also elsewhere connected to all the different places they wanna be. People want to customize their lives. They want to go in and out of all the places they are because the thing that matters most to them is control over where they putt their attention. So, you wanna go to that board meeting, but you only wanna pay attention to the bits that interest you, and some people think that's a good thing, but you can end up hiding from each other even as we're all constantly connected to each other. 50-year-old businessman laments to me that he feels he doesn't have colleagues anymore at work. When he goes to work, he doesn't stop by to talk to anybody he doesn't call and he says he doesn't want to interrupt his colleagues because he says they are too busy on their e-mail, but then he stops himself and he says, you know, I'm not tell you the truth. I'm the one who doesn't want to be interrupted. I think I should want to, but actually I'd rather just do things on my Blackberry (RIMM) . Across the generations, I see that people tend to get enough with each other if and only if they can have each other at a distance in amounts they can control. I call it the Goldilocks effect, not too close, not too far, just right, but what might feel just right for that middle aged executive can be a problem for an adolescent who needs to develop face to face relationships. An 18-year-old boy who uses texting for almost everything says to me wishfully someday, someday but certainly not now I would like to learn how to have a conversation. When I ask people wrong with having a conversation? I'll tell you what's wrong with having a conversation. It takes place in real time and you can't control what you're gonna say. So, that's the bottom line; texting, e-mail, posting. All of these things let us present to self as we wanna be. We get to edit and that means we get to delete, and that means we get to retouch the face, the voice, the flesh, the body. Not too much, just right. Human relationships are rich and they are messy and they are demanding, and we clean them up with technology and when we do one of the things that can happen is that we sacrifice conversation for mere connection. We short change ourselves, and over time, we seemed to forget this or we seemed to stop caring. I caught off guard whenStephen Colbert asked me a profound question, a profound question. He said, "Don't all those little tweets, don't all those little SIPs of online communication add up to 1 big gulf real conversation?" My answer was no. They don't add up. Connecting in SIPs may work for gathering discrete bits of information. They may work for saying and thinking about you or even for saying I love you. I mean, look at how I felt when I got that text from my daughter, but they don't really work for learning about each other to really coming to know and understand each other, and we use conversations with each other to learn how to have conversations with ourselves. So, off light from conversation can really matter because it can compromise our capacity for self reflection. For kids growing up, that skill is the bed rock of development. Over and over, I hear, "I would rather text than talk." And what I'm seeing is that people get so used to being short change out real conversation, so used to getting by with less that they become almost willing to dispense with people altogether. So, for example, many people share with me this wish that someday a more advance version of Siri, the digital assistant on Apple's iPhone (AAPL) will be more like a best friend, someone who will listen when other won't. I believe this wish reflects a painful truth that I've learned in the past 15 years. The feeling that no one is listening to me is very important in our relationships with technology. That's why it's appealing to have a Facebook page or Twitter feed so many automatic listeners, and the feeling that no one is listening to me makes up one to spend time with machines that seemed to care about us. We're developing robots. They call them sociable robots that are specifically designed to be companions, to be elderly to our children, to us. Have we so lost confidence that we will be there for each other?