英语翻译Assertiveness is the ability to confidently express your

英语翻译
Assertiveness is the ability to confidently express your opinions,feelings,
　　attitudes,and rights,in a way that doesn‘t infringe(侵犯) the rights of others.
　　Many of us are taught that it is not nice to consider our own needs above those of others.If someone says or does something that we don‘t like,we should just be quiet and try to stay away from that person in the future.
　　Why is Assertiveness important?
　　If you don‘t know how to be assertive,you might experience:
　　•Depression - Anger,a sense of being helpless,hopeless,or of having no　control over your life.
　　•Resentment - Anger at others for taking advantage of you.
　　•Frustration - Why did I allow that to happen?
　　Most people find it easier to be assertive in some situations than in others.This　makes perfect sense.It‘s a lot easier to hold your ground with a stranger than with　someone you love.But the more important the relationship is to you,the more　important it is to be assertive.Assertive behavior leads to increased respect from others!
　　But before you decide to act assertively,you have to decide if you can live
　　with the results.Although assertive behavior usually will result in a positive
　　response (积极的回应),some people 　might react differently.
　　How to be effectively(有效地) assertive:
　　•Use ”I” statements.Keep the focus on the problem you‘re having.”I‘d like to be able to tell my stories without interruption.” instead of ”You‘re always interrupting my stories ”
　　•Use facts,not opinions.”Did you know that shirt has a hole?” instead of　”You‘re not going out looking like THAT,are you?”
　　•Express ownership of your thoughts,feelings,and opinions.”I get angry when he breaks his promises.” instead of ”He makes me angry.”
　　• Make clear and direct requirements.Don‘t invite the person to say no.”Will you please?” instead of　‘Would you mind...” or ”Why don‘t you...”
　　•Keep repeating your point.Use a low level and pleasant voice.Don‘t try to explain yourself.

自信地表达你的观点的能力,情感,
的态度,和权利,在不侵犯他人的权利（侵犯）.
我们中的许多人都认为它是不好的要考虑我们自己的需求高于一切.如果有人说我们不喜欢的东西,我们应该保持安静,尽量远离人的未来.
为什么自信很重要吗?
如果你不知道如何变得自信,你可能会经历：
•抑郁愤怒,感到无助,绝望,或没有控制你的生活.
•怨恨愤怒别人利用你.
•沮丧-我为什么让这样的事情发生?
大多数人发现它比别人更容易在某些情况下,过分的自信.这是完全有道理的.这是一个更容易与陌生人握住您的地面比你爱的人.但更重要的关系是你的,更重要的是要坚定.自信行为导致他人更多的尊重!
但在你决定采取行动果断,你必须决定你能活
结果.虽然自信行为通常会导致积极的
响应（积极的回应）,有些人可能有不同的反应.
如何有效地（有效地）自信：
•使用“我”的语句.要把焦点集中在你有问题.“我想告诉我的故事没有中断.”而不是“你总是打断我的故事!“
•用事实,没有意见.“你知道,衬衫上有个洞?”而不是“你不想说,是你吗?“
•表达你的思想,感情和观点的所有权.“我生气当他违背诺言.”而不是“他使我生气.“
•明确和直接的要求.不邀请的人说.“请你?”而不是“你介意……?“或”你为什么不……?“
•不断重复你的观点.使用一个低水平和悦耳的声音.不要试图解释自己.